Dating Advice

Just be aware that I have minimal dating experience. Most of what I know, I know intuitively.

So you’re new to the dating scene or consider yourself to be a little clueless about dating. Well, here I am with my self-proclaimed dating advice; all my advice is based on my experience or experiences others have had, not theory. Below are a few scenarios that frequently pop up during dating, but often leave people a little confused. Often in retrospect the clarity of the situation seems obvious.

I have his/her number, now where do I go from here?

You met in person or online and now have the person’s number. It’s a matter of whether or not you have an interest in dating this person that will determine what your next move will be. If you would like to date them, then just ask them out on a date. If you’re the guy conventionally it is up to you to plan the date and take the girl out; so express your interest by saying something along the lines of, “I’d like to take you out to (wherever the date would be), how does (this day) sound?” If you’re the girl, and are of a conventional mindset, mention to the guy how you want to see a certain movie, eat at a specific restaurant, or other typical dates. If you aren’t too hinty and more direct, then tell the guy something of the, “You should take me out sometime,” variety.

He/she seems to like me a lot. We text/call each other everyday, but they constantly dodge the topic of going on a date.

To put it simply, if the person always dodges the topic when you ask them to go on a date, or to hang out, then they don’t want to date you. If the person had a romantic/sexual interest in you, they would respond to you asking them out with a “yes” green light response. However, of course there are exceptions to this general rule. Sometimes the person is very shy. The end result is still the same, going on a date is not happening.

Why does the person I want to date have what seems like an unlimited amount of selfies on Facebook?

Be very careful with this situation because it could be benign or lead you into a world of despair. This person may have had Facebook for a long time, so it is to be expected they have a lot of selfies. Although, if over 75% of their photos are selfies, this person may be narcissistic. Do not simply assume they are a narcissist because they have a lot of selfies, this symptom has to be interpreted in tangent with other behaviors. However, be cautious because a narcissist can cause you a world of heartache, pain, and suffering. Here is a official website page that discusses in depth the characteristics of a narcissist– Hallmarks of narcissist personality disorder

This concludes this post of my dating advice. If you have any questions or comments feel free to post them in the comments box. I’d love to hear what you have to say.

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